Whose Life Are You Living?

…as an adult, we like to think that we’re in charge of everything in our life.

Yet how many of us, if we’re honest, will admit that the life we’re living isn’t our own?

That what we do is because of someone else’s decision or suggestion.

Our father was a doctor so we’re told that we should follow in their footsteps.

A friend goes off to join the army and we tag along with their decision.

A guidance teacher said that we’ll never be academic and that a trade is where we should go. – And they advise becoming a mechanic.

And we find ourselves living a life that wasn’t ours.

Living out another version of someone else’s life, where we’re supposed to be a better version than they were.

And like a puppet on a string, we go to work, go through the motions, and show up, feeling empty inside.

Like playing a board game where we weren’t given a go with the dice we don’t feel in control of the most important thing we have.

In my own case, I’ll always be grateful to my father for veering me away from the path that he was on.  Being a truck driver like his father before him, it would be easy for me to be behind the wheel right now instead of writing these words.

Thankfully, he reminded me constantly that driving a truck wasn’t the life he wanted for me.

It was only years later, when he was recovering from a heart attack and told that he’d never be able to drive again, that I realized that the job he had was one he’d no love for.

Ask if he’d miss it, I was given a ‘no.’

Not a ‘maybe’, not ‘sometimes,’ but just a short swift ‘no’ and nothing else.

Those two letters spoke volumes to me about what he’d spent the majority of his life doing. – To come to the end of your life and to look back and not be happy with what you’ve done.

Every day we meet people like that.

People living lives that weren’t really theirs.

People trying to put a smile on their face, trying to show the world that they’re winning, when winning is the last thing they’re doing.

That’s one of the reasons I show up here so often.

Because although you mightn’t be living your life, you can make changes where you are.  That it’s possible to educate, entertain, and inspire, even if it’s only part-time.

It just takes a little courage to do so. 

Hopefully, like what my father did for me, I can push you to create the life you want to have instead.

If you’d like to follow my journey from being a lowly shelf stacker to becoming a popular children’s author, and then on to creating and selling my own digital products, head on over to https://www.writecome.com now.

Failure Is A ‘Thing’ And Not An ‘Us.’

…for too many of us, we attach failure to us rather than distance ourselves from it.

It was us.

We weren’t good enough.

We haven’t got what it takes.

We see failure as the end of the road and not the wrong road that brought us to the wrong destination.

We lose the fact that we gained some knowledge from it. – We found new landmarks, saw things we would never have seen, and gained new experiences along the way.

We see failure as more about us than the vehicle we choose that was wrong for the route.

We see failure as the dodgy tattoo that’s a permanent reminder of where we’ve been, or a stamp on our passport to show we’re a loser.

It’s also the location we’re the only ones to have visited, forgetting that it’s a destination you’ll never find empty.

And like a bad holiday, it’s one we don’t like to talk about.

We goofed up.

We messed up.

And it’s a place we don’t want to go back to.

Yet failure is a thing, and not an us.

It’s a stop-off and not a final destination.

It can be a starting point for our next trip, than an end to our current one.

And the person that’s well travelled is a lot more entertaining to be around, and wiser because of it.

Because anyone can camp in their backyard, it doesn’t take courage to do it. – Just don’t expect to have great adventures while you’re there.

If life is a journey and not a destination. – It would make sense to travel to as many places as you can.

And although it mightn’t always work out. you’ve only got to get it right once in a while to be successful.

If my recent years have shown me anything it’s that you can gain a lot from your failures. If you’d like to learn the 3 greatest things that I’ve learned along my way, and the ones that made a huge difference to your online business, go to https://www.writecome.com now.