…ever been plagued by a bad book review?
You’ve got ten decent ones, but that one still keeps chipping away at your confidence.
Or maybe a it’s bad blog comment.
You did your best, gave as much good content as you could, but someone decided that a rain cloud was missing from your parade.
Or maybe it’s a video, email, or social media post, that you pulled the trigger on, and you realise that there’s a obvious misspelling standing proudly where everyone can see it…..and you feel like the village
I’ve been there…..still do on more occasions than I’d like to admit to.
But while beating yourself over the head because of your stupidity, naivety, or lack of talent, can seem like time well spent….you can’t change it.
And that’s something I’ve discovered from reading Hal Elrod’s recent book ‘The Miracle Equation.’
Those four words have a lot of power in them.
You can’t change someone’s opinion of your book.
You can’t change how badly your last blog post was received.
You can’t change that spelling mistake that can’t be taken down.
You also can’t change how dumb you were last year.
Why? Because that’s all in the past.
Sure you can rant and rave, call yourself the biggest idiot since the earth cooled, or a hundred other things, but you can’t change that moment.
In his book, Hal tells about waking up after an horrific car crash, one that was supposedly going to leave him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life.
He got over it, and back on his feet, by allowing himself only a few minutes of misery, before acknowledging to himself that he couldn’t change any of it.
He couldn’t make that moment in the crash go backwards.
He couldn’t undo all the broken bones he had.
He couldn’t even get back the girlfriend that left him after the accident.
That was all in the past….it was what happened from now on that mattered.
And so it is for all of us.
We can scream, cry, throw furniture around, give that guy in that other car the finger, but none of that will change anything.
Now, if you need to do it…..go ahead and get it out of your system….but once that moment’s passed, it’s time to move on.
Better to focus your energy on your next step.
Now, if your next step is getting more eyeballs focused on your social media content….I’d skip over here.
That’s if you like skipping.
PS – As for the rest of Hal’s book, it’s well worth getting a copy of it….very inspiring book.