…”Fear guides the restrictions of our ambitions.’ – Arsene Wenger
How big are your ambitions?
If everything was handed on a plate to you, what would you be surrounded by and what would you have done with your life?
I’m sure it’s a lot more than you have right now.
The problem is, you’ve boxed yourself in.
You’ve said to yourself this is as far as a person like me can go. – And you’ve drawn a line in the sand.
All those things you want, sometimes really want, and you decided that they’re off the menu.
That’s what fear does.
It’s like an invisible bubble that we’ve trapped ourselves in. – The important word there is… we.
We hold ourselves back.
It’s like having a car full of gas, a highway that we want to go down, but we spend all our time ruining the road so we can’t travel far on it.
Crazy, right?
And yet, is there really much to fear from?
Now if you’re someone that spends all their time on the news channels you probably see fear around every corner.
And TV, there’s far more crime on it than off it. – Want a guaranteed hit? Make a cop show that scares the crap out of your audience and makes them believe that life is really that dark.
But outside those two, it’s us that sets the fear level for the day.
I can do this, but don’t expect me to do that.
And so this big wide place that you could explore gets reduced down to the size of a prison cell where we spend our days.
If we were happy there, that would be fine. – But we’re not.
And yet it’s us holding us back.
Fear is sometimes explained as “False Evidence Appearing as Real,” but I’d also add that it leaves us “Feeling Empty About Reality”
Because most times we fear the things we really want. And when we don’t go after them, there’s an empty space in us that was never filled.
The things we don’t fear, are usually things that don’t even cross our minds.
But we fear writing books, asking a date out, speaking on stage, going on video, etc. And when we don’t do them, we turn on ourselves, cursing our lack of confidence, how pathetic we were, and we replay that scene in our heads for a lifetime.
Fear leaves us with more questions than answers. It leaves us with what-ifs that plague us for years. – It’s one thing to be uncomfortable in a moment, it’s another to be miserable for a lifetime.
Your choice is to weigh up the two, live a life filled with questions, or one filled with answers?
And a life filled with questions is a horrible way to be.
How about breaking down some walls today and finding out some answers?
